Comfort.
Things will never stay the same.
A fact we can all agree on and is backed up by science is that things will never stay the same. We are constantly growing, aging, and moving… Regardless of our phase in life, something is happening.
It’s human nature to want time to stop. We want to stay in this moment that may be blissful, or this phase of life that is ideal. It’s also incredibly common to be stuck in a cycle, refusing to grow, and not realizing you are there.
Why is that a bad thing?
Well, from a sentimental aspect, you could say it isn’t. However, when we prevent ourselves from reaching our full potential, we miss out on incredible opportunities such as jobs, relationships, and even love.
When we miss out on our full potential and we choose not to chase the higher version of ourselves, we ultimately impact everyone around us to do the same. We hold back our family, friends, and children from pursuing dreams by not growing ourselves.
You may argue with a fixed mindset, hold unnecessary standards, guilt, or shame the people you love the most because you are afraid of the discomfort that comes with growth.
It all starts with you.
All of those negative things I just mentioned you may do to others?
Chances are, you started doing them to yourself a long time ago. We treat people the way we think about ourselves.
You are scared.
You are afraid of change.
You don’t like being uncomfortable.
Trust me. I get it. I was there myself for a long while. But here is what made me change, and refuse the same treatment from hurt people that were around me.
Why are you wasting time?
Think about all of the time and energy you have wasted trying to stay comfortable.
Think about all of the condescending comments that have been made to you by that one friend you should have distanced yourself from long ago.
Think about the family member that continually put you down and refused to support you and how you’ve needed to cut them off for a while.
Think about all of the arguments with your spouse or child about them wanting to pursue a passion and you extinguishing their flame because you were afraid for things to change.
You are worth it.
Our lives here on earth are too short to waste another second! Your life is too important.
The fear is real. The abandonment is real. The discomfort is real.
But it’s temporary.
The negative situations I laid out are just that, situations.
Right now, because you put up with those people and behaviors, it isn’t just a situation, it’s your whole life.
If you lay to rest these situations, they don’t bleed negative effects into your life anymore. You simply cannot leave a moldy piece of fruit in the basket, because it will eventually ruin every other piece.
You must remove the toxicity from your life. Whether it is in you or around you.
You have to increase your awareness.
The key to this is knowing yourself and knowing the people around you. Awareness can be tricky, we try to see the best or worst in specific people, but this process forces us to also skill up our integrity.
You must be honest with yourself about who you see, who you are with, and who is staring back at you in the mirror.
Do you really like hanging out at that bar with your friends? Or do you prefer the one across the street?
Do you really want to run that 5k? Or are you doing it because your sister wants you to?
Is your career something you are truly passionate about? Or is it what Mom and Dad wanted?
These can be hard questions. Uncomfortable questions. The answers to those questions don’t matter unless they are your true and honest answers. What you do with them afterward is up to you, but increasing your awareness will only make you grow stronger and wiser.
Be uncomfortable for a little while, and you will be comfortable for a long while.
If you are struggling to build your awareness skill, schedule with me here for a free session.
Until next time,
Audye
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