I Was Robbed
I Was Robbed
I haven’t shared too much about my birth story with our beautiful daughter. I won’t get too much into it now, but to make a long story short I was mentally and emotionally drained, my body physically was not ready for birth, my epidural failed, and I don’t remember much about the first week or so of my daughter’s life. Not to mention the nonexistent postpartum care from my provider (a story for another day).
The medication I was on for the spinal headache I had after my dura was punctured had things very fuzzy for a good 10 days. I fell into a deep and VERY dark hole of postpartum depression for the next 6 to 7 months… I felt like I would never get out of it. I couldn’t even see light peeking out above me.
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When breastfeeding got hard, I was told things like “just keep doing it and you’ll be fine” and “try this supplement/eat this food/don’t do this” – even though months of practice and persistence and trying everything had failed me.
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When I asked for help with postpartum depression, I got a bunch of “this is normal” and “what you’re feeling is just hormones” and my all-time favorite, “just give it time, it will go away”.
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When my wonderful husband, after giving our child and myself all of his energy, asked what else he could do to help – I had no answer for him. I was lost.
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They said:
“It is what it is”
“This will pass”
“Welcome to motherhood”
“Just wait until she’s older/walking/talking, then it will actually be difficult”
“Just wait until you have more kids”
“Maybe you should take a pill and see if that helps”
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This story I just told… It isn’t unique to me. In fact, SO many women are put through and told the same things, to the point that it is labeled “normal” and just something women have go through.
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I was robbed of peace, moments of my daughter’s life I will never get back, moments in my marriage, and months of life because I didn’t know any better. Because I wasn’t taught. Because I wasn’t equipped. This caused me to reach a point so low that I couldn’t function.
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That is when I joined The Woman School.
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After months of mindset work, skill training, and intentionally cultivating peace in my life, there are times that it has been hard to keep from imagining what it would have been like then if I had these tools. I’ve had to take a lot of time to process this and realize that next time it WON’T be like that. I refuse. I have the power to reject it.
I have the tools to set the boundaries, to find medical providers that have my best interest in mind rather than viewing me as a dollar sign, a support system with experience that will hold my hand if the waters of my mind become murky, and most importantly I have reclaimed my worth again.
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This suffering is not what I deserve. No woman deserves it.
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If you are a mom, trying to conceive, pregnant, newly postpartum, or even quite a few years postpartum, I ask you to consider joining me for my Postpartum Mindset group.
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Don’t suffer the way I and so many other women have.
If you are one of those women who share this story with me, come find healing. Learn new tools with me and let’s refuse to allow society to normalize this injustice.
Until next time,
Audye
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